SAFETY TIPS FOR ESCORTS
The
Ultimate and Most Comprehensive List (A Must Read for Escorts)
First
Things First (Be Anonymous)
- Get a PO Box and have it placed on your
Drivers license or State ID instead of your home address.
You don't need nosey clients or potential stalker types knowing your home address.
- Use a prepaid cell phone so there are
no billing records where callers can use identity theft
technology to uncover your real name and residence.
Money
Issues with Cash
- Cash is king and always preferable. Many escorts make it an absolute must and the only way to do business.
- Be wary of cash payments, know what real
money looks like as bad clients sometimes use
counterfeit money. Learn how to quickly check bills to make sure they are legitimate (not counterfeit)
- Check for a watermark on the right side of the bill.
- Make sure watermark matches the denomination of the bill. Some
counterfeiters bleach $5 bills and print $100 counterfeits. If you hold up the bill to the light and see President Lincoln's face instead of Benjamin Franklin's, you know you have a fake $100 bill.
- Check for the metal strip or security thread on the left side of the bill too and see that it says the proper amount.
- Check the big numbers for the color shifting ink. Move the bill in the light in such a way the ink shifts from green to black and back again. Color copiers cannot duplicate the color shifting security feature.
- Feel the paper. Real bills are made from a 75% cotton, 25% paper blend. The texture is a linen feel that gives a special quality to the stiffness that cannot be matched with regular paper alone.
- Real bills also have tiny red and blue fibers embedded you can check to make sure the paper is real.
- Checking the bills means you have to make a quick scan, and it is best to have your client's leave the donation envelope with your money in it, in the bathroom where you can excuse yourself and check the bills privately and with sufficient lighting.
(Other Anonymous Payment Methods)
- Use prepaid credit cards and gift cards
to pay for advertising and other services.
- Use PayPal to receive payments, and to
make payments.
- Do not link your paypal account to any
checking accounts or credit cards with your real name and
billing address. You can also preload your Paypal account
with a prepaid credit card.
- Set up PayPal mobile so you can have
customers text message you money, if they run out of cash. You will be notified of the transaction and can the go about your business.
- Do not take credit cards from as they can
be disputed.
- Do not take gift cards from new or unknown
customers, because they can be empty when you get
them.
- Do not take checks or Money Orders as
they can have stop payments put on them, or they can be
forged.
- Be wary of cash payments, know what real
money looks like as bad clients sometimes use
counterfeit money.
When
On The Phone, or Emailing, with A New Customer
- It helps if the caller is a member in good standing on RS2K (Room Service 2000), P411 (Preferred 411), or Date-Check.
- Never discuss rates and services, as that can be "interpreted" as an offer for prostitution.
- Do not discuss donation rates and
sex acts with a customer as that is a clear indication of prostitution.
- Have your ad or personal website explain some of your services that are available, or unavailable.
- If you have hard limits, clearly explain t o the client;
what it will involve (companionship), how long it will last
and how much it will cost (the donation) for your time.
- Let client know if he chooses to go longer time with the date, he should be prepared to pay you extra for your time, if you wish to keep things strictly business.
- Be wary of clients who say they don't
have a home phone, or who only have a mobile phone to book
the service. To pass screening they must provide information
that can be verified by other providers, employment, or other search
or credit report searches.
Booking
An Incall
- Never do incall appointments to your home with a first
time caller, this compromises your home safety, unless he
has references from reputable escorts you can check with.
- If you do incall, keep your vehicle,
and house or apartment doors locked at all times. Stalkers and boundary crossers may come visit when you are not at home.
- Best to have a security system as well, especially when an incall goes badly and you need to hit a panic button.
- For Incall, emphasize that you do not
accept, nor appreciate drop-ins and to respect your schedule
and privacy.
- Don't have any money, or valuables in the
room you entertain clients in.
- Have a great discreet hiding spot.
- Don't have your ID, personal mail with your real name and address, or any personal items in the
room with you where a stranger can obtain
your real name or personal information.
- If you do incall from an apartment or
condo, or hotel, don't tell your customer your unit or room
number until after he arrives and calls you to tell you
he has arrived and you verified his arrival. This way you can look out to see if anyone
else, or other vehicles, arrived with your appointment to
determine if he's safe to give your unit or room number
too.
Booking
An Outcall To A Client's Home
- Try to verify the outcall address through Google to verify the address is real. Get a feel for the safety of the neighborhood. See if the house is in a good neighborhood or the house has been condemned, or you're being summoned to a vacant lot or an industrial park. (Seriously it's happened)
- Use a driver for security on outcalls if possible
- If you drive yourself, let someone you trust know where you are going and how long you expect to be there.
- When you arrive, text someone to let them know that you arrived safely and he and the outcall location look okay.
- When you arrive to an outcall house or condo, check your mirrors and all around you, before getting out of your vehicle. Have pepper spray in your hand and a cell phone in the other if possible.
- Let the client know that you need to check in periodically (via text) to let someone know you are safe.
- Subscribing to a Paid Search like Been Verified or Net Detective …
may be the best investment you may ever make.
Booking
An Outcall
- Verify the home address or hotel is an
actual address, so that you don't arrive to find out you've
been the victim of a practical joke or prank.
- Do NOT rely on your dates for transportation
to and from your appointments. You don't want a complete
stranger picking you up at your home, nor do you want to
depend on him bringing you him if things don't work out.
- For Outcall appointments, use a driver when possible
or let someone know the location of where you're going.
- If the customer is at a hotel and you
are to meet them at their room, get their real name and
room number, then later call the hotel desk asking for him by his real name to verify he is a registered guest. If
the hotel doesn't have his name registered, he's not checked
in yet, or he gave you a fake name. Either way, RED FLAG!
- Outcall appointments are usually safer
in an upscale hotel and not someone's home or flea bag motel.
- Don't book calls with any clients who
insist that you do NOT use a driver or taxi.
- Don't book calls with any clients who want you to show up and do a car date.
Arriving
To An Outcall
- Always be extremely aware and in
tune with your surroundings.
- If you are going to a client’s
private home or hotel, drive by the house first to check
for signs that might suggest “something is not right.”
For example, if the house is dark, empty, or abandoned. If there are several cars in the driveway indicating
others are there, or you hear loud music coming from the
house indicating a party is going on, or the music is an
excuse for the client not to hear you so they don’t
answer the door. Or you see more than one person in or around
the house, or men sitting in cars parked near the
house. If you feel something is wrong call the client on
your mobile to discuss your concerns, if you don’t
get answers that satisfy you then cancel the booking. Do it while you are safe in your car, not at the door or
inside their place.
- Carry in your purse only what you need,
and no personal ID or real information about yourself. No
mail or bills, no check books, credit cards, bank deposit slips. Many bad
clients are stalker types who seek to obtain your real name,
your residential address, and address, and your private
or residential phone #.
- Don’t take cash or ID with your real home address to the job.
- Let the client know, or give him the
impression that there is someone (driver) waiting outside
for you, even if you are not using a driver.
- At the start of the booking call someone
(a friend, maybe a relative or even your own answering machine).
This will let the client know that someone else knows where
you are and that your whereabouts can be traced.
Avoiding
a Hotel or Motel. Vice Sting
- If it’s a new client. Get there
at least a half hour early. Check the parking lot carefully
when you arrive. Most of the time cops have someone in a
car watching and warning the guys in the room that someone
is on the way in.
- If you get their early, you can also see if they just busted another provider and are escorting her out of the motel to get ready for your arrival.
- When you walk into the room look for
door attaching to the next room next door. If you see one,
be safe and say you don’t feel well and have to go,
then leave, because 9 times out of 10 it is a set-up. that's the adjoining room the other vice cops are hiding and waiting in until they get the signal to come in and arrest you.
- Look for rooms that are too neat, where
there is no luggage, no clothes in the closet, the bathroom
is perfect, towels and soap hasn’t been used.
- Look for rooms that have too much going on, like several people have been there, like the police drinking coffee or smoking cigarettes while they're making calls form the room and waiting for girls to arrive.
- Cops may try and stage the room to make
it look like a mess. Leaving a beer can or cigarettes around
in an ashtray. Try to find out when they checked in. See
if the room is reasonably messy considering the time they’ve
supposedly been there.
- When they talk about sex or keep trying
to get you to talk about money and sex, say you made a mistake and there's a misunderstanding and you need to leave.
- And if the client’s
voice is unusually louder, maybe for a bug or recording
device, that's another clue to leave.
Before
Starting The Session
- Your Donation should be available and
in full view. If it is not, politely ask for donation saying
you will find that aspect of business more pleasant if you can
get it out of the way beforehand. Actually this is for you
to protect you from getting ripped off with the client saying
he forgot his wallet in the car, or needs to go to an ATM.
- While it is better for the client to have your donation on the bathroom counter where you can check the money (for counterfeit) and to make sure the full amount is there, if it isn't, you can always excuse yourself to the bathroom and discretely check the donation he just gave you.
During
The Appointment
- Be confident and assertive from the moment
you arrive. It's important to be in control and stay in
control of the situation.
- Be polite and friendly, it's often the
best way to keep control even when the client is behaving
like a jerk.
- Don't leave anything laying around the customer can go through.
- Be aware of every thing the customer is doing.
- If you must use the bath room at any time, even to shower afterward, take your purse with you, and perhaps lock the bathroom door.
- If a customer is at your incall, do not let him wander through out your place. Restrict him to your work space only.
When
Things Go Bad
- If you sense trouble coming, try to avoid
it. Change the conversation, always be pleasant.
- If the client starts talking down to you,
or calling you bad names, turn things around, be assertive
and take back control. Bad clients may test you to see what
they can get away with and push you to those limits.
- Or if you can't alter the direction things
are going. Take notice, find a polite reason to leave.
- If you want to leave and the client forces
you to stay or won't let you leave, you can scream for help.
- If you are at your incall, you can always have security or pretend to have your neighbor or security as your check in close by, or to use as a threat, if he doesn't leave.
- Or, you can throw something through a
window, the noise will surely attract attention.
When
Good Clients Go Bad
- Many Clients forget you are providing
a service and get emotionally attached.
- Some clients feel that after a few visits, you may owe them a freebie. They may not discuss it with you, they will just short your pay or simply not pay you after the visit. so always get the donation up front and verify the amount.
- Some clients feel that after a few visits that you owe them something more or special like unprotected services.
- Always be aware of what you're doing
and saying so you don't lead them on.
- Always be cordial, pleasant, and professional.
- Don't get involved in a client's personal
life or problems.
- A client's personal problems are not
your problems.
- Just because a client spends money on
you, doesn't mean you owe them anything more outside your
service.
- Stay emotionally healthy by being
emotionally detached.
- Don't get involved with your clients
or date them out of the hobby.
- One you start dating a client, he will
want to control you and stop you from working.
- He will get depressed, angry, or resort
to guilt and manipulation to control you.
- Do not marry your client's. One day the
fantasy will end, and he will discover that, "Having
is not the same as Wanting!"
- Many clients have issues with women,
and therefore do not, or can not, have normal healthy relationships
with women. That is why they pay for your time and services.
Keep this in mind and remember to not ever get involved,
date, or marry your customers. "Pretty Woman" was a movie, a Hollywood fantasy, and not a reflection of real life.
- Never succumb to threats of bad reviews, or outing you to your family or real job, or your landlord. This is the first sign the client is an insecure control freak stalker.
Avoiding
Health Issues
- If you do Full Service, GFE Girlfriend
Experience, or PFE Porn Star Experience, always always always wear a condom.
Always use condoms for oral, vaginal, and anal sex, and
when using sex toys. The price you may pay for not doing this, could be with your life.
- Always inspect the client's body the
best you can for wounds, sores, scabs, red bumps.
- If you see sores, use protection, or
better yet, avoid contact or cancel appointment.
- Have yourself tested frequently.
- Check your client for STDs, especially
for crabs, sores, herpes blisters and warts. Condoms do
not always protect you 100% against these.
- Do not use massage oils as lube. They
break down the condom rubber. Use water-based lube such
as wet
- stuff or KY jelly and wipe off any massage
oil before you put the condom on.
- Use your own condoms, not your client's. some clients have weird fetish fantasies about getting you pregnant, so they put pin holes n the condom, cut the tip off, or otherwise do something that allows the condom to break during vigorous activities.
- Be aware that Nonoxynol 9 condoms cause
medical problems for some ladies. Nonoxynol 9 can remove
nail polish so it is best not to use it on regular basis.
- Putting on a condom with your mouth is
useful if the client does not want to use them, but this can
eroticise condom use.
- If you use xylocaine, be aware of the
risks. It is not advisable to use xylocaine for penetrative
sex. Due to
- the numbing effect, you are less likely
to feel any injury or become aware that a condom has broken.
Xylocaine can numb the client’s penis, and
make it difficult for him to cum.
- If the client does not take no for an
answer about using condoms, suggest another activity such
as Spanish sex (between the breasts) or hand relief with
lube.
- If the client refuses to use some or
any safety measure for safe activities, best you end the appointment and leave!
- You don’t have to do anything you
don’t want to.
- When it comes to detecting an STD, TRUST
YOUR INSTINCTS!! Be safe, not sorry!
- If you sense or see something's really
wrong, smell a bad discharge, just get out! Leave politely,
say something like, I've forgotten my special bag and have
to get it from the car. Or I have to let my driver know
you're OK and I'll be staying, and then leave.
Avoiding
Law Enforcement Stings and Legal Problems
- Is caller a known and respected hobbyist?
- Does caller have a handle with a history of reviews that you can verify with the providers he's reviewed?
- Since many ladies do not like reviews, have caller provide you references from
a known and trusted providers he's seen recently.
- Do not talk about sex on the phone, in
email, or answer questions regarding sex or until you know
for sure he is completely safe with him to do so, or you've seen him before and again know for sure he's safe to talk with.
- Use National Blacklist to check on the
name, handle, alias, phone #, and email he contacted you with.
Avoid
Rip offs
- Do not take credit cards as they can
be charged back.
- Do not take checks, personal checks,
cashiers check , or otherwise. They can be fake, forged,
or have stop payments put on them.
- Do not take gift cards as they can already
be used up with no balances on them.
- When the client pays or gives you the
donation envelope, excuse yourself and say you have to go
to the ladies room. Once alone, count the money to ensure
it is there in full and the money is real (not fake)
- Put the money away in a safe place, away
from wandering hands when you may not be looking. To be
safe...
- ...Give
the money to your driver.
- ...Put
it in an inner zipped pocket of a jacket or purse.
- ...Put
it in a hidden secret compartment in your purse.
- ...Put
it in a locked cabinet or drawer, or some other safe place.
- Remember. Bad clients will try to take
back money when you are in the bathroom, shower, asleep,
or distracted on a phone call. Make it difficult foe them
to find your money.
Other
Red Flags
- Be wary of guys with multiple names, aliases, emails, and phone #'s.
- Be wary of clients who book, but do not call just before appointment to confirm yours or their arrival.
- Be wary of clients who insist that you
do not use a driver or take a taxi to his location.
- Look through the whole house or hotel
room to check for signs of other people, for signs of danger,
vice stings, drugs, or paraphernalia. You could say, “this
is a lovely house, would you mind giving me a tour?”
Or you could ask to go to the toilet and then have a quick
look around. Be alert at all times.
Other
Tips
- Don’t drive to a far away call
on an empty tank of gas and then depend on the call going
though to give you gas money so you can fill up on the drive
home. Many providers have stranded themselves that way.
- Carry a mobile phone with you at all
times.
- If your date is picking you up, have
him meet you at a public place or meet you on the corner
of the address you live. Until he’s proven himself
safe, do not give him your actual address.
- Carry enough emergency cash for a taxi, that way if you
are going on a date and he picks you up, and things go bad you aren’t stranded.
Stimulants
- Alcohol - Drugs
- Don’t accept a drink that has already
been opened or that you have not seen being made. It’s
not difficult for him to slip a drug (like
Rohypnol) into
the drink he’s fixed for you.
- Do not drink beverages that you did not
open yourself.
- Remember that alcohol begins to impair
your judgment with the first drink.
- Do
not share or exchange beverages with anyone you don't know
and trust.
- If
someone offers you a beverage from a bar at a club or a
party, accompany the person to order your beverage, watch
it being poured and carry the beverage yourself.
- Do not leave your beverage unattended
while talking, dancing, using the restroom, or making a
phone call.
- If
you realize that your beverage has been left unattended,
discard it.
- Do
not drink (swallow) anything that has an unusual taste or appearance,
(salty taste, excessive foam, unexplained residue, etc.)
- Monitor your drinking. A drink to relax
is one thing, but too many drinks may place yourself in
danger.
- Never be afraid to say no thank you,
or... No thanks, I’ve had enough.
- Make sure you are not under the influence
of alcohol of drugs when visiting clients. Too much alcohol
will affect your judgment and ability to defend yourself.
Poor
Hygiene
- Remember that if you find a particular
client distasteful, or offensive, no amount of money is
worth having to service them.
- Suggest he showers, or you bath him and
make it part of the session.
- Many men who suffer from bad hygiene
suffer from depression,
alcoholism, and may be subject
to mood or personality changes if they feel offended or
are sensitive about their weight or health condition. Approach with caution, be respectful, sensitive,
and understanding.
Aggression
- Warn that you will leave if the client
gets too rough.
- Be tactful – especially if the
situation is becoming nasty. Keep your cool and be honest,
don’t buy into the client’s bullshit, this should
help to diffuse a situation.
- If you drive yourself, park your car
so only the back can be seen from the house (for example
behind a tree or some bushes) and leave the car radio on
if possible (this will suggest to the client that someone
is waiting for you).
- Pens, screech whistles, breath sprays,
pepper spray and pepper spray rings, can make good weapons,
and may allow you the opportunity to get away.
- Don’t carry knives or guns with
you. These can be used against you!
- Have your belongings near the door in
a pile so you can grab them if you need to get away quickly.
- If you have to defend yourself, do it
with the intention of hurting him badly. It is a good idea
to take a self-defense course. If a client becomes aggressive
or violent let him know you can trace him through his credit
card, address, car registration number, etc. Explain to
the client that you will not hesitate to report him to the
police.
- Don't trust offenders - Often aggressors
will tell you that if you are quiet and do what they tell
you to do then they won’t hurt you. If you believe
this then you really are putting your life in their hands.
If the chance arises to sneak out or bolt out the door, then get out of there. If after the
attack the assailant attempts to take you to another location
then statistics show you may not be coming back at all.
After
A Bad Experience
- If in danger, don’t hesitate to
smash one of the client’s windows or his stereo with
a lamp, ashtray, or anything heavy. This will startle (perhaps
even scare the client) and it hopefully make enough noise to let your driver, or the
neighbors know that there is trouble going on and someone is
in danger.
Fantasy
Fetish, Role Play, Dominance, and BDSM Providers
- Set your rules and make sure client knows
you are in control.
- Check for client references.
- Screen carefully.
- If you are doing a domination service,
before you start make sure client knows what they may be
in for.
- Beware and on your guard for client's who speak of or joke about switching or turning the tables on you.
- Have them sign legal waivers to protect
you, so if things go wrong, you have some legal protection.
- Have clients understand safe words, and
that it is okay to use them.
- Make sure clients are not drunk or drugged
during appointments. Anything that depresses their senses
is not safe for them.
Protect
Your Mental Health and Esteem
- If you are feeling stressed, your work
will suffer. Take some time off to relax and recharge.
- Don’t take bad clients seriously
or a bad session to heart.
- Don’t get involved with your clients.
- Don’t get sucked in by your client’s
bullshit, health problems, personal problems, financial
problems, or drama. Their problems are not your problems. This is a business relationship you have the more you stick to business the emotionally healthier you will be.
- Stay emotionally detached at all times.
- Don’t date or get personally or
financially involved with your clients.
- Don’t marry your clients.
- If you have a bad experience with a client,
report them on National Blacklist. Doing so will help you
vent, and take back your dignity, power, and control.
Extra
Tips For Escort Agency Workers
- Let your agency know what service you
will or won’t perform.
- Find out how your agency operates with
bounced checks, and credit card fraud charge backs before
committing to an appointment prepaid with such.
- Always ring the agency when you leave
or extend a booking. You should have a code between yourself
and the receptionist to use if you are in trouble.
Tips
When Using Drivers
- If you are going to service a client,
consider employing a driver. Drivers can be very useful
in helping you out of difficult situations. They can be
used for safety, convenience, excuses for leaving, and traveling
for companionship and safety during long distances between
towns.
- Ask the driver to accompany you to the
client’s door. This is a good way to get the client
to pay up front.
- Then give your money to the driver for
safekeeping.
- You should have a code between yourself
and the driver to use if you are in trouble.
- If your booking is in a hotel or motel
let the driver know the room number where the service will
be taking place.
- Make sure your driver waits while you
are providing the service.
- Use a driver that you know and trust.
- Arrange for the driver to knock on the
client’s door at the end of the booking, if it has
gone overtime and you haven’t called to check in with
him.
- Never feel obligated to have to tip the driver with sexual services.
Tips
For Drivers
- You are being paid by the escort to do
a good job. This means you are there for her security as
well as
- transport.
- Do not leave after you have dropped the
worker at the job. Wait until the worker has finished providing
the
- service.
- Be alert at all times and be prepared
to assist her if she needs you.
- Do not hassle the escort and expect a
free service (quickie) from her.
- Respect the worker and follow her wishes
while you’re on the job.
- Know the time when the appointment is
to finish. If the worker doesn’t call you to let you
know the session is extended and doesn’t come out
by the agreed time, you should call her or go and see if
everything is all right.
- Leave the steering wheel lock off, in
case you need to make a quick get away. There are times
a provider may have a dangerous or psycho client she needs
to get away from. Driving away is a better situation that
you getting into a fight with a dangerous person who may
be armed and you can get hurt.
- You may need to defend yourself and or
the worker against a violent client (if the client follows
you to the car a steering wheel lock, pepper spray, a taser, all can be good weapons).
- Have a code between yourself and the
worker to signal you if she is in trouble. For example,
movement of
- the bedroom curtains or blinds. During
the session, watch and pay attention, a missed signal by
you could have devastating repercussions for the provider.
Assertive,
Aggressive, and Pushy Customers
- You have the right to say NO!
- You have the right to set your own body
limits.
- Communicate your limits in an assertive
manner. Be direct and firm about what you do and do not
want.
- Be aware of stereotypical behaviors that
may be a warning sign of abusive attitudes and/or behaviors.
- Take a self-defense class so that you
know how to fight back and defend yourself.
- Plan ahead, give yourself lots of options,
and trust your instincts.
- If he/she makes sexual innuendos that
do not match your feelings, tell him/her that you are uncomfortable
with his/her comments.
- If he ignores you and continues or tries
to make you feel bad, that’s a red flag!
- You do have the right to end a session
and leave for any reason, at any time.
- Be firm. You do not have to be polite
to someone who is ignoring your feelings, or disrespecting
you.
- Do not blow off responsibility for his
actions to alcohol, drugs, or emotional problems. Whatever
their "reason," you have the right to keep yourself
safe.
- Prepare yourself mentally. In case of
a hot tempered or abusive client who get's aggressive or
violent with you, being prepared and having pepper spray
in your purse may be a savior.
What
is Sexual Assault, and Little Known Facts
- Any sexual act attempted or committed
against your will.
- Forced sexual contact by dates, spouses,
family members, acquaintances, or strangers, and yes even
paid clients.
- An act motivated by a need for power
and control, not a desire for sex.
- Anyone
can become a victim of sexual assault, regardless of gender,
age, race, religion or social class.
- 1 in 3 women will be sexually assaulted
within their life.
- 1 in 4 girls will be sexually abused
before age 18.
- 75% to 90% of the offenders are known
to the victim.
- Only 10% of sexual assaults are reported.
- There is only a 2.8% conviction rate
nationwide of rapists.
- 75% of escorts were sexually assaulted
as kids and sadly, due to the nature of adult entertainment and
the attitudes regarding sexual assault against women, the
client, and even the law, will make the woman think it was
her fault she was assaulted.
Reporting
Sexual Assaults
- You were there. You know what happened.
Only you know and have the right to report a rape.
If
You Do NOT Want to Report or Aren't Sure
- Go to a safe place.
- Call for help, to a family member or
friend.
- Go to a clinic as soon as possible to
check for internal injuries and/or sexually transmitted
diseases. (Tel them you had painful, unprotected intercourse.)
If
You Do Want to Report
an Assault
- Go to a safe place.
- To help preserve evidence, do not douche,
bathe, or change clothing.
- Call the police - they will take you
to the hospital and make a report.
What
to Do If You are Assaulted
- Know that you are not responsible for
the behaviors of others.
- After the incident. If you have been
attacked or forced to defend yourself then get away from
that location quickly. The attacker may return or they may
have others close by. Go to a safe area first and then phone
the police or friend. Tell them where you are and where
the incident happened. Then let your friends or police come
to you, do not arrange to meet them back at the scene.
- You have the right to make decisions
- whether to report it to the police, go to trial, or tell
family and friends, etc.
- Talk about it or deal with the assault
when you are ready. Talk about it to who you feel most comfortable.
- Know that if you want to report it, the
sooner the better to preserve any and all evidence.
- If you are having bad thoughts, dreams,
can’t sleep or cope. Time may not heal the emotional
wound. Speak to a rape crisis volunteer, seek counseling,
or talk to a close and trusted friend. Professional people
are trained to help you, but if that is not an option for
you, please have a close friend to share and support you.
Aggravating
Cons, Scams, and Schemes
- The Con Artist - I’m a producer.
I would like to audition you for a porn video.
- Scammer - I’m a well known
and respected hobbyist. I can make or break your reputation
with good or bad reviews so you should let me test drive
you to help you with some good reviews.
- Blackmailer- If you don’t see me
or give me Full Service or Free Services, I will write bad reviews on you.
- Threatens you - If you
don’t see me, I will out you to the cops, your family, your apartment manager and let them know what you are doing.
- Scammer - Haggles you down in price because
they are a VIP member of some escort board, or an employee or owner
of some local or national review board.
- Arrogant Loser – I’m good
looking so you should do me for free! I have a big dick
so you should pay me to be with you. Or you'll be having fun too, so why should I pay?
- Inconsiderate Jerk – He Double
or Triple books, to see if you really look like your photos
and if you don’t he takes the pick of the best of
the other ladies that do show up.
- Offers to pay with Checks, Credit Cards, Money Orders, Gift Cards, or wants your real name and banking information so he can do a electronic money or wire transfer to your bank account.
- Says his wallet, your gift or donation was left in the car.
- Says he'll get money in his car afterward.
- Tries to immediately initiate activities upon his or your arrival to distract you from asking for donation.
When
It's Time to Leave or Cancel on the Jerk!
- When the client tells you “I left
my wallet in my car. I’ll go an ATM afterwards and
come back.”
- When the client tells you, “I forgot
my wallet, I’ll make it up to you next time.”
- When the client tells you he has drugs to barter or exchange for your services.
Where
it pays for YOU to be honest.
- If you don’t look like your photos,
because you are using old photos, if you put on lot’s
of weight, you look considerably older or younger than your
photos, if you are using someone else’s photos, or
stock photos… face it, you are misrepresenting
yourself which is a bait and switch tactic. It is unfair
of you to expect the client to go on with a session if you
have lied or misrepresented yourself. Better to leave and
learn your lesson. Do not get mad at the client if he’s
displeased or sends you away. And do not put the client
on Blacklist because you falsely represented yourself in
your advertising.
- If you are NOT who the client booked
with, because you are going in place of another provider
who has double booked, and she or the agency is asking you
to go in that girls place because they don’t want
to lose the money…. If the client is not happy with
you and isn’t willing to go ahead because you aren’t
who or what he expected based on what was advertised. Just
leave. Don’t make a big deal of it. Don’t
post him on Blacklist. He has the right to refuse the session
if you are not who he was expecting.
Make
Usage of National Blacklist
- Post all incidents to National Blacklist
to share with other girls.
- Read about other incidents so you know
all the problems and scams to look out for.
If
You're Worried about Retaliation
- If you’re concerned about a bad
client seeing a post about them and retaliating against you try changin the location or date.
- Do not write any specific language or
dialogue that occurred between you that can tip him off
or remind him of an association with you. Do not mention if it was an incall or outcall, a motel, whether you went to dinner, just make general statements, like he was rude, pushy, took off the condom, he shorted my rate, stuff like that.
- Use generalities about the incident to
avoid any specific circumstances that occurred that can
trigger an association with you. Say he was agressive and rough but not specifically how he was rough or what he was exactly doing. If he ripped you off by not paying you say that, instead of he left me an empty envelope or an evvelope with cut up newspaper. The more facts you put in the report, the likelier he is to remember who he did that to.
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